Powerful Questions Podcast: Do you have the courage to start before you are ready?
Think about your life right now. Are there any things in your life that you want, but you did not yet start acting to achieve them? If there are, it is ok to be in this stage. You should allow yourself time to prepare for change, and also to understand whether you really want something.
But in my opinion, you cannnot wait till you are ready to start doing something. You can never be 100% ready for something that is really worth doing. You cannot be 100% ready for something that is supposed to bring you new learnings and insights about yourself and the world. You will not be 100% ready for something that will challenge you and improve your skills.
On the way to any big goal are so many small steps. So the sooner you will start, the sooner you will get to your goal. One step at a time.
For me personally getting ready was always about learning. Knowing more about the topic. Being the best before you could ask people to pay you for your services. But in the end, there is never a perfect moment to start. And it's fine to feel that you are not ready yet.
What I sometimes hear is: yes, it's great that everyone is telling me to get out of my comfort zone, but first I maybe need to get into my comfort zone. And this is a really important nuance for me and what has always worked for me personally. To risk and have courage in one area of your life, you need to have some security and "comfort zone" in some other areas. These could be different things. Some people need financial security, having a certain financial cusion in case something happens. People that surround you are very important. If you know you can rely on the support and understanding of your close ones, this will help you have more courage.
There's no universal solution here because everyone is different and everyone's needs are different. Think for yourself, what would help you feel more secure?
What is also very important is to be conscious that you are going through stress when you are starting something new and being really courageous about it. So think of the ways you can bring yourself through this time. What normally helps you get through stress?
Excercise is scientifically proven to relieve stress. For me yoga and dancing are best sports, but many people like more intensive sports. Find out what your favorite excercise is and really find time for it regularly, it is worth it!
What also helps me are my two great cats. I have always wanted to have pets! And although it turns out I have a mild cat allergy, I really love them and petting them helps me relax and relieve stress.
The way anxiety often manifests itself for me is overthinking. I continuously ruminate about things that are going on. Particularly if I go to sleep, in stressful times it might take me an hour to go to sleep because I cannot stop thinking. What really helped me in some periods was journaling, although I could not keep it as a continuous habit. Just sitting down for 5 minutes and getting everything on paper that is on your mind might really be helpful. At the least, you will just get these things out of your system. And you might get some new insights when you read what you wrote afterwards.
Before we finish, I would like to share with you a great tool to help you start doing whatever it is you want to start.
It is a very simple tool, but it if you are blocked, it can really help you.
First, find or draw yourself and empty calendar for the next 30 days where you have space in each day to write something down. The calendar should start today, not tomorrow!
In each day, write down one small action you can do to come closer to your goal. It can be very small, like googling something, making a call, watching a youtube video, listening to a podcast that will help you. Write something down for each day, and than just stick to it! I the end of the 30 days, you will be surprized to see your progress and what you have already achieved. This will give you inspiration to continue and to take further steps towards your goal.
Start doing, don't wait!